Young Single Adults

A couple of weeks ago my younger sister (younger by six ½ years) got married in the Mt. Timpanogos Temple. Since that day, I cannot count the number of times that I have been asked, "So, how does it feel to have your younger sister married before you?"

(This was always asked with the implied and sometimes said: After all, you are a 25-year-old return missionary, who doesn't even have a boyfriend…)

Instead of pointing out how rude and inappropriate that question is, and that they should mind their own business as I would like to say, I graciously put a smile on my face and honestly reply that I am very happy for my little sister.

Yes, I will admit that for a brief moment at the beginning of their engagement I suffered from what my friend and I call a "Valancy Day" (This is a literary reference to my favorite L.M. Montgomery book entitled, The Blue Castle. For those of you who don't know, L.M. Montgomery is the famed author of the Anne of Green Gables Series.)

"One does not sleep well, sometimes, when one is twenty-nine on the morrow, and unmarried, in a community and connection where the unmarried are simply those who have failed to get a man…Ay, there lay the sting. Valancy did not mind so much being an old maid… What hurt her was that she had never had a chance to be anything but an old maid. No man had ever desired her." Excerpt from Chapter one of, The Blue Castle, L.M. Montgomery

However, like Valancy, I quickly pulled myself up and out of that blue mood which I was in, by focusing on what God has given me, not on what He has yet to give me.

Yes, a big part of me wishes that I was able to get married years ago when I was younger. A part of me wishes that I already had children of my own. Yet, I am so grateful for the blessing of being able to have served a full-time mission, to receive an amazing education, and that I have the current opportunity to serve as an Ordinance Worker in the Mt. Timpanogos Temple. All of which would have been either difficult or impossible to do if I had married and started having children years ago.

As Alma stated in the Book of Mormon,

"But behold, I am a man, and do sin in my wish; for I ought to be content with the things which the Lord hath allotted unto me.

I ought not to harrow up in my desires, the firm decree of a just God, for I know that he granteth unto men according to their desire, whether it be unto death or unto life; yea, I know that he allotteth unto men, yea, decreeth unto them decrees which are unalterable, according to their wills, whether they be unto salvation or unto destruction." Alma Chapter 29:3-4

So, even though my life has turned out differently than I planned, I am happy in all that God has allotted me. My life, my happiness is in His hands, and could I ask for more?

As for my sister, I was telling the truth when I said that I am happy for her. My younger sister is an amazing young woman, and I love her very much. How could I not then be happy that she has found an equally amazing young man to spend the eternities with?